Its 10:05pm Thursday evening the night before one of the biggest shows of my bikini competition career. I’m laying in my hotel room covered in pro tan, reflecting on how far I’ve come since 2012.
What brought me here???
What keeps me going day in and day out???
Surely, just “showing up” and going through the motions didn’t get me here. Determination and sacrifice did. Passion did. That is the difference between simply showing up and actually being a show stopper; PASSION. If you are passionate about something, it shows and people can see it.
I’m so fortunate to have the support and love of so many. I finally feel blessed and at ease with where I am in life, but it hasn’t always been that way. Back in 2012, I was completely lost. I didn’t like the direction in which my life was headed, so I made the necessary changes. At the time, these changes were terrifying, but necessary. I moved out on my own, changed jobs, weeded negative people out of my life, and stopped drinking… just to name a few. It resulted in me spending A LOT of time alone. This was when I truly found myself and grew as an individual.
“The changes didn’t happen overnight”
It took a while. I didn’t have a plan of attack or know exactly what I wanted. I just knew I wanted MORE, more than to just be mediocre. So, I chose to make the little decisions day in and day out that at the time saw no immediately results at all. As a matter of fact, they actually went unnoticed by most, but over time they added up. That’s what brought me here. I refer to it as “The Compound Effect” and eventually it kicked in for me. I had to connect today’s actions with tomorrow’s outcome. That’s what got me through, and that is what still keeps me going.
Everything you do each day has a direct effect on your tomorrow. If someone came to me back in 2012 and told me I’d be a national level bikini competitor, sponsored by USPlabs and holding the title of Miss Ravish Sands 2015, I wouldn’t have believed it. But here I am.
A lot of girls ask me how I got this far. What did I do? All I can honestly say is I evaluated my goals, and then reevaluated them daily. I spent a lot of time alone, growing as an individual, reading, writing, learning what I liked, what I wanted and what needed out of my life. What made me HAPPY, because for the longest time I wasn’t. For me, fitness was it. Lifting weights, and challenging myself on a daily basis. That was my HAPPINESS. I learned:
-Replace one bad habit with one good habit, and then another and another…
-I wrote down my goals, both long term AND short term
That is still, to this day, how I start every morning… with a cup of coffee and my to-do list. I’m not perfect. I don’t know EXACTLY where my life is taking me, but I do know the changes I made back in 2012 have completely changed my life for the better. I’m not who I once was, and that isn’t a bad thing. Change can be scary, but scary has never felt so good.
No one gets anywhere extraordinary by staying in their comfort zone. If you’re happy there, in you comfort zone, great. There is nothing wrong with that. But if you want MORE, if your curious to see what your actually capable of, what your limits are, and what the world has to offer you, you have to take the uncomfortable, scary LEAP. Change can be such a great thing when you embrace it with a positive attitude.
“Change is not popular; we are creatures of habit as human beings. I want it to be the way it was, but if you continue the way it was, there will be no is.” Robin Williams
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